Feeling Like an Idiot to Change the World
I was at a leadership conference. I forget the exact topic of one of the talks, but a speaker said something like, "repeated words become our beliefs, our beliefs become our actions, our actions change our lives." Or something like that. I'm a psychologist, trained...
Mindset, Perspective, and Meaning
I write this at the end of a grumpy day. The irony is not lost on me. There are many things that cannot be solved with mindset. Sometimes, finding a different perspective doesn't numb the ache of disappointment. And, in the very dark moments, making meaning is...
The Angel – Not Alone
I sat in my chair, desperately trying to make her believe that she was lovable. Her history of pain had left her to conclude that she was fundamentally inferior, unworthy of love. Cognitive behavioral therapy wasn’t working. Debate wasn't working. Reassurance wasn’t...
Kindness Ripples
I was driving home and debating the relative merits of Taco Bell. As I assessed the variables, I remembered one particular Taco Bell location close to me that always seemed to have a friendly woman and great service. Upon ordering, I heard the same kind voice coming...
Sometimes Doing The Right Thing Hurts
It was late at night, and I left the gym, eager for a shower and bed. I realized that it wouldn’t be such a fast trip when I noticed the flat tire on my car. Whipping out my AAA card, I made the call that has saved me time, grease, and sanity over the years. The AAA...
Your Unicorn Must Be Rubbing Off On Me
“Your Unicorn Must Be Rubbing Off on Me” I was influenced by two messages for a long time. The first message was that I needed to be realistic and choose. In both the over and covert messages of adults around me, I heard the false dichotomies of happiness or money,...